Life’s experiences are supposed to be lessons in how to succeed at the art of living. The experiences may guide us to a path of success or lead us down a dead end, but whatever the result we learn from either road taken. For me the roads followed in 2009 have been bumpy at best, filled with potholes for the most part and even ending in huge sinkholes at their very worst, but the lesson I’ve taken from this is the best way to survive is to forget, forgive and go on. I can’t change the past. My reality is based on what happened and there’s nothing I can do to change that. I need to take what I can from what happened and then move forward. The worst thing you can do is to dwell on past failures, injustices, or mistakes and make them the focus of your future. It’ll only turn you into a bitter person, the guy at work with a chip on his shoulder, the woman walking around jealous of her peers, the ones who think the world owes them the respect they don’t deserve.
I wouldn’t want to erase the past even if I could. I want to learn from it and find a way to make it make me stronger. Here’s to the challenge of making a new year into a new opportunity and like a phoenix rising from the ashes transforming our setbacks into a means for growth.